tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-843744461861424385.post5887542765513397015..comments2023-04-14T06:41:18.494-07:00Comments on Honor and ill repute: Great ExpectationsWill Edmonsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02759106786222445808noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-843744461861424385.post-41078034797597891302010-05-27T15:25:51.199-07:002010-05-27T15:25:51.199-07:00You doubled "something" once in one of t...You doubled "something" once in one of the middle paragraphs. Just my copy editor mind goin'. <br /><br />It's really interesting reading this after some of what we've talked about/you asked me about. And I think you have fabulous points. Another phrase I've heard that's similar to the one you mentioned is something along the lines of "The key to being successful (or happy)? Lower your standards." My voice professor said that in jest one day- I didn't enjoy that comment. Having high expectations CAN lead to disappointment, and in relationships can be detrimental, but I think this is only when they are not appropriate (you covered this) and when they are not communicated (you also touched on this- we shouldn't have to read minds). Howwevvverrrr high expectations for a person also make it possible for those expectations to be met. If a teacher sets the bar at about waist level in a class, I won't try. But if they set it a couple feet above my head, I'll jump till I reach it, and either way I'll be "successful". Danger about the high bar: some students don't reach it. But if the high expectations allow for growth, is that not worth it? I think you would agree with me. I think similar things happen in parent-child relationships and friend-friend relationships. You talked mostly about feelings as far as relationships are concerned. I'm certainly not an expert in the area, but I think it's appropriate to expect some emotional understanding. Clarification: This is only fair when emotions are clearly communicated (just like you said). You said not to expect apologizes when feelings are hurt or when angry. I disagree. If there's any type of positive relationship there, the person who caused the emotional turmoil probably did not desire it and would be sorry, and an apology would be appropriate. (Again, whoever's feelings got hurt does need to say so.) Perhaps I'm just reinforcing your points and rambling on... maybe so. :) Either way, I enjoyed it oooh ya and lovely title.Esther C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13885131777517186677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-843744461861424385.post-80612394534869990252010-05-27T09:45:06.482-07:002010-05-27T09:45:06.482-07:00These expectations is what breaks pastors. Destro...These expectations is what breaks pastors. Destroys churches. <br /><br />I was amazed last night as someone in my congregation attacked me verbally for not living up to her expectations regarding something that happened three years ago. Completely unrealistic view of well, everything. it came down to me not being able to read her mind or something. I don't know.<br /><br />I'm beginning to think that our service-based economy is leaking into service based relationships. All these unspoken expectations of others floating around, it's gonna make a lot of people's lives hell.Kurt M. Boemlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12767315496114371725noreply@blogger.com